Codes of Conduct and Policies

To protect our sacred spaces, we operate under this strict code: 
We believe that true safe spaces requires deep privacy from all angles and what happens within, stays within.

Foundation and Mandate
Dominant Women Lifestyle Society
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General organization-wide
In-person casual meetups and hangouts experiences

We are dedicated to providing a safe, grounded, and drama-free support space, for all attendees—especially newcomers and those curious about alternative lifestyles. Our primary goals are community building, making friends, and learning from one another. To keep this space comfortable for everyone, this is strictly a platonic social environment; we do not facilitate hookups, casual sex, or pickup play. Attendance is a privilege, not a right.

Good to Know

1. Newbie friendly.
2. Sex, fetish, kink, and body positive.
3. Usually have a structure: theme, agenda, post-munch instructions, or additional miscellaneous information at hand.

A. Rules

Foremost: Good manners, social politeness, common sense, and direct consent are mandatory.

1. No disruptive or thirsty behavior.
   
   
2. Don’t expect any play, or any type of hook-ups.
   
   
3. Dress ‘nilla or clothing that doesn’t overly attract attention.
   
   
4. No politics, religious topics, drama, or bad-mouthing someone not present allowed.
   
   
5. Photo or selfie-taking is allowed as long as there is consent prior and is actively being supervised by a person in charge – must directly ask.
   
   
6. Respect everyone’s privacy and don’t ask for overly identifiable information.
   
   
7. Don’t pressure, even if just subtle, anyone to give you any type of contact info.
   
   
8. Have a good time and enjoy, but don’t expect anyone to keep you entertained.
   
   
9. Kinky and sexual topics are well welcome as long as they stay within our inner circle ears.
   
   
10. It is expected you have a positive, friendly attitude, and can make or follow conversations, but what happens at the socials, stays at the socials.

B. Guidelines

1. Bring all your life in general personal questions, stories, ramble, rants, jokes, (etc).
   
   
2. Colloquial curse words or speech are very okay. Explicit talk is also fine, but not over sharing. For example, we, as a group, won’t be seeing your impromptu demo, or going to your vehicle to view anything or hear about the exact details of your last sexual or kinky personal encounter. Want to show-n-tell? Check with us prior.
   
   
3. You shouldn't get personal with someone you don't have an established something. For example, “Accidentally” touching someone is bad and not okay. “Whacking” someone with a rolled menu, is terrible and definitely not okay. Being a bystander and not doing something about it, would make you the enabler we don't need, either.
   
   
4. Some flirting is fine, but don't get overwhelming or uncomfortably obvious. You should hold it, if it is not clear the person is open to it.
   
   
5. You can leave at any time – no need to stay all throughout, but it would be nice you let the hostess or mod know.
   
   
6. Whatever the attendees choose to do after the official social ends, is their own.

C. What to Expect

1. Crowd and Tone: these are an entirely casual social conversation events for people from all walks of life, and often, it is with the mix of several types of dynamics, interests, and ages.
   
   
2. We try to be welcoming and friendly to all kinkster levels and other types of alternative lifestyles.
   It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, nervous, anxious or just to stay silent. We get you, but please help us help you – should make your own effort to socialize a bit.
   
   
3. Moments of the group's silence should be expected and are very okay, not awkward. Specially when everyone (someone) is enjoying their bite or beverage. However, we'll appreciate you could help keep the conversations going because everyone’s collaboration is necessary to make it a community.

D. Reservations

1. No drop in or unannounced, plus other(s): each person in your party must have their own reservation and be counted in.
   
   
2. If you know you may be late or early, contact us.
   
   
3. No-shows without a word are frowned upon.
   
   
4. For all our safety, the specific location and address won’t be disclosed publicly. 

E. Policies

1. After closing, we don’t facilitate demos, after parties — kinky play.
   
   
2. We reserve the right to adjust the date and time as needed for the best of the collective experience.
   
   
3. We reserve the right to cancel the event without prior notice due to low attendance, or close the event early or on time.
   
   
4. We reserve the right to ask anyone in front of everybody to leave if there is a critical violation of the Rules above or do anything else we may find inappropriate.
   
   
5. While we go out of our way to make our events a safe place to make and experience friends, everyone attends these gatherings at their own risk, and we aren’t responsible for individual person-to-person interactions. Ultimately, we consider it your responsibility to report any misbehavior or suspicions:

• Have a general or personal concern about someone? Has anyone made you feel uncomfortable somehow? Has anyone broken any rules? Has anyone harassed or bullied you? Please, submit to us an Incident Report.
• Either report it discreetly to the hostess or mod during the event, or after it has ended, you may do so face to face, by email, or inbox.
• Your report will be greatly appreciated, respected, and considered. Some reports may require further investigation.
• Any appropriate action will be taken that may include the expulsion of the culprit(s) (by association counts too) and being added to our black or watch list.

The above might be subject to change. Last updated on November 2025.